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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a super fit woman in my mid 40s, I also meet the other criteria except finally secure. I've focused my time on being in the gym, being with friends, and eating healthy, home-cooked meals instead of my career. I used to be a SAHM and am back in the field. Looking to meet someone decent who is willing to be the bread winner, it's tough![/quote]

Why does he need to be a bread winner ? Do you plan to have more kids? Men usually take on bread winner role if they have joint kids with you. If that’s not what you plan, then you are better off making a career shift than looking for a sponsor. It will be a relationship with significant power imbalance. I wouldn’t want to tolerate power imbalance in relationship in my mid life. Had enough of it in my first marriage [/quote]

I want to agree with you because I've always focused on my career, but I have one client whose newest wife is an exception.  She's in her late forties (best guess) and very fit and has focused on taking care of herself over a real career.  She had already raised her kid before they met.  Client (late 60s, still fit and super active) is extremely wealthy and they fly private over the world together to his many houses and on awesome vacations.   Who knows how long it will last or what would happen to her if he dies, but she is living a very enviable lifestyle at the moment! [/quote]

My first husband was of this type. Not sure I want it again: if that ends (in divorce or him dying and leaving everything to his kids), it’s very hard to switch from flying all over the world to an average local  life. If her husband provided a good prenup then she’s ok. I wouldn’t date another wealthy husband unless it’s a multi million prenup - the power imbalance is way too much, and you have to build your life around his needs and needs of his family and friends. I have my own estimated future earnings in millions and wouldn’t give it up for nothing. 
I had a very carefree 20s and 30s, spending months in Europe on vacations, multiple skiing trips , exotic destinations. At some point you just don’t want it, and would rather be with someone warm and cozy who really appreciates you. [/quote]

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