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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here:  In response to the COVID comment, yes, things were different.  I stopped buying stuff except food and cleaning supplies.  We saved a ton of money.  I think that not buying stuff really helped.  I saved almost a year’s worth of salary in about 2.5 years’ time.  I put it in stocks but I’m so bad at picking them that half the money is gone—but it’s not clutter. 😃
I started buying again recently (having depleted my Christmas storehouse).  I just re-read all the postings to try and inoculate me against too much buying, which I think has already happened. I am appreciative of those who advised reading the childrenofhoarders.com site.  I also felt the kindness of those who gave advice.  It’s been good to look at it again.  Thank you again to those who took time to share their insights and experiences.

P.S. I am super curious if the previous poster did get divorced or stuck it out.  It’s been a while, but maybe the PP checks once in a while too.[/quote]

NP here. I can relate to a lot in this thread. DH and I come from families with hoarding. Not horrific piles of trash hoarding worthy of a reality TV show but bad enough to feel like you’ve lost control of your surroundings and the spouse who is more of a minimalist starts getting agitated, yelling a lot and considering separation. My father came from a house where the walls were lined with boxes. My mother was from  the opposite- neat, orderly upbringing. We’ll, now I’m starting to find myself sounding like her because DH is turning our house into a Uhaul storage room. We work on clearing space and voila he orders more stuff and rather than find a logical home for it it sits in the living room.  I thought Covid would help but in our case it didn’t. I don’t know what to do. We’re looking to move and I’m hoping that will be a fresh start.

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