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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is this such a taboo, forbidden thing? Why can’t I go on a date with another man and still have an intact family at home? Why can’t we have both? I feel that I can love more than one person in different ways, but it’s still love. If my dh had a gf on the side who was discrete and trustworthy and healthy I honestly don’t know if I would care or feel anything at all. [/quote]

That’s something you can discuss with your DH but in reality most people could not tolerate such an arrangement.

I told my DH about a coworker crush and he practically went insane with insecurity and jealousy.[/quote]
No, you’re right, it wouldn’t work, but it’s all because of feelings, jealousy and possessiveness. My dh would throw me and my belongings out into the street if I merely suggested this arrangement, I could never even mention a crush to him. On the flip side,[b] I am terribly jealous of my crush’s wife, and constantly compare myself to her and wonder what drew them both together. I want to be better than her.[/b] [/quote]

Said: every.otherwoman.out there.

Just disgusting. Every OW I know wants to be the wife and is in a secret competition with someone that doesn't even know they exist.  She already won.  She's not a disgusting cheater banging (or lobbying )  to bang other people's husbands.  She is above you...and that's why, even if he banged you, he would never respect you enough to be with you because you are tainted, and a lying cheat, unlike his wife.[/quote]
Ha! I know his wife and honestly, sadly she seems to be not all there…or heavily medicated or something. It’s so bizarre. She barely speaks.[/quote]

Oh yeah you are so much better than her :roll:  :roll:  This post just reinforces what the pp said about these ow (and ow wannabes) constantly focusing and denigrating his wife.  It’s a sick game and how they try to get self esteem.[/quote]

Usually everyone in these situations is a mess.[/quote]
I am unhappy in my marriage and super attracted to a married man but I am far from a mess. My intuition is strong and I feel a definite connection with him. His wife seems to be one of those women who’s main goal in life was to land a successful dude and have a fairytale wedding. she got what she wanted, and now just sits back and enjoys all the fruits of his labor. Her identity is wife to her DH and a mommy and that’s it. She seems to lack any substance. Of course I could be wrong or he may very well be a mindless drone himself.[/quote]

Judging someone like this stems from insecurity, I think.  You don’t know a damn thing about this woman, you just want to one-up her some way in your mind.[/quote]
I know enough about her to know that her main goal in life was to be married and have his babies. She makes it pretty clear. I may be insecure about some things but this is the complete opposite of myself, which is neither good nor bad. Both of them seem to have blunted emotions, flat affects, she’s worse than him. They seem to be on heavy doses of prozac, that’s just my perspective. It’s strange.[/quote]

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