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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]They are not going to force their middle school girls to be friends with your daughter, and even people who seem like saints can become vipers when you suggest their children might not be as pleasant and inclusive as they imagine them to be. [/quote]

I don't know that it is true that they will "become vipers," but I agree that you cannot force middle school kids to be friends.  When another mom confronted me about my son no longer wanting to be friends with hers, all I could say was "you're right, they drifted apart, and I am sad about that because I really like Billy.  I hope maybe they'll be friends again in the future."  I can't control who my kid wants to hang out with, and as long as he isn't bullying anyone or being cruel, at this age, he does have the right to choose who he spends his spare time with.  [b]He has to be civil, but he doesn't have to be friends with the people I pick.[/b][/quote]

You sound like a good mom and a good person, PP.  Your response to the other mom was spot on.  [/quote]

We’re in this same sucky situation. DD is being excluded by a mean girl, and the other girls are afraid to speak up. I’ve talked to a few of the moms who see it, and are trying to get their girls to not be bystanders (you know, all the anti-bullying stuff kids were taught for the past few years), but it’s hard. And I keep telling DD, you don’t have to be friends, but you have to be civil. I wish some of the other parents were teaching this to their kids instead of ignoring it because their kid is in the “in” group.[/quote]

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