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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Brian maturation is not achieved till nearly 30 years of age. [/quote]

So what? Womens sex drives peak in their thirties and early forties. Does this mean they shouldn’t have sex sooner? Why does your brain have to be fully “mature” to live your life? Especially when biologically it’s optimal to have kids in your twenties and thirties? Either way you’ll miss out on either peak “brain maturity” or “peak fertility.” [/quote]

Your Brian needs to be fully mature to raise a baby. Somehow, this is news to you. [/quote]

If it’s not optimal for a girl to have a child at her peak fertility (let’s say that was her teens, but I think studies have actually shown that women in their mid to late twenties have the healthiest babies as a cohort), then why is it automatically optimal for a women to have a baby when her brain is at peak maturity? If one is not biologically dictated, why do you assume the other is? These are weak, baseless arguments that you seem to be making to rationalize an extreme POV.[/quote]
Except peak fertility and highest sex drive in women is in their early 30’s along with the brain being mature. So yes, it does align. [/quote]

You are either very misinformed or a liar. From the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists:

“A woman's peak reproductive years are between [b]the late teens and late 20s[/b]. By age 30, fertility (the ability to get pregnant) starts to decline. This decline becomes more rapid once you reach your mid-30s. By 45, fertility has declined so much that getting pregnant naturally is unlikely for most women.“

https://www.acog.org/womens-health/faqs/having-a-baby-after-age-35-how-aging-affects-fertility-and-pregnancy

We have been lying to women for the entirety of my lifetime on this issue - I am 51 - and a great many women including me and a few of my closest friends were robbed of motherhood by this lie. STOP LYING TO YOUNG WOMEN!!

We need to work to make it easier for women in peak fertility years to have the babies they want when they are healthiest and most able to recover from the grueling days of pregnancy and early infancy care and still have all the opportunities to get educated and establish a career. This CAN be done, but not if we keep telling young women to wait wait wait until you are so old you can’t have a natural pregnancy and you are an exhausted middle aged woman while your children are energetic and demanding preteens and teens.

Nineteen or twenty is a very healthy age biologically to have a baby. Now let’s be honest about that and fix our messed up societal expectations instead of trying to put a square peg in a round hole. The biggest sin of the second wave feminist movement was this lie that any woman can have babies in her late 30s and 40s it’s no big deal. BS! And from my observation of a few decades in family law, there is no magic formula that having kids later will guarantee better mothering or a more healthy marriage. Plenty of women on this board who followed the gospel of second wave feminism have miserable marriages and strained parenting issues and all the money from a career doesn’t fix it.

Stop the lies. Let’s start brainstorming for a future society that really supports moms (and kids) of ANY age! [/quote]

The biggest sin is the complete lack of social safety net that makes it increasingly harder to impossible to have children and not go into insane amount of debt when you factor in childcare and housing.

The pandemic really exposed just how much children and their parents or an afterthought in our late capitalist system. I cannot blame any gen z women for doing the math and just deciding that they cannot afford children. Having kids in this country just feels like a scam[/quote]

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