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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I noticed with the Adam Levine controversy that the super feminist take among younger millennials and Gen Z is to victimize the “other woman” and make the husband the sole perpetrator, including situations where the husband is famous and known to be married with kids. [b]The husband IS most responsible for cheating on his wife, I agree with that. He’s the one who made promises he broke. [/b]But do women really not owe anything to other women anymore? It’s totally fine to be a side chick now , even when it’s publicly known that the wife has little kids at home?

I feel like I’m taking crazy pills watching all these young women fall all over themselves to defend that TikToker who had the affair with Adam Levine. I don’t care what lies he fed her, she knew he was married and she was an adult when their affair started. It’s interesting to me that it’s considered “unfeminist” to call her out for being a homewrecker or to tell her t9 shut her legs to married men. Why can’t two things be true at once? Adam Levine is a trash husband and I hope his wife leaves with half his fortune. But knowingly sleeping with married men is trash behavior too.[/quote]

So is your thesis “we are not being adequately cruel as a society to a woman who exposed a man for cheating on his wife”? Are you afraid that the scarlet letter she embroidered for herself was too beautiful?[/quote]

She wasn’t even apologetic though. I only watched 2 of her videos so idk, maybe she talks about being sorry somewhere else. But in the first two videos she released she makes herself out to be the victim when really the victim is the wife and kids. She knew he was married! What did she expect? The least she can do now is say she is sorry and regrets it.[/quote]

[b]She doesn’t need to be apologetic to “us” as in the general public. The only person she *may have* contributed harm to is the wife of the man, and for all you or I know she told the wife as soon as the story was going to break and the wife was happy that she went public because it pushed a bunch of OTHER people to expose his creeping. That’s only going to help the wife in the long run if she decides to divorce him or get a post nup. She doesn’t owe you an apology. She doesn’t owe me an apology. And the idea that we all have to get together and call her a “slut” and tell her to “keep her legs closed” even though she never did anything to harm us is literally taken from A Scarlet Letter.[/quote][/b]

Sumner is no Hester Prynne. Women that basically sell sex, especially White, educated (she evidently has a marketing degree) women with options are not helping the feminist cause. I agree that she doesn’t owe anyone an insincere apology.[/quote]

Wait wait wait. The reason all the very angry people on this thread are calling her names they would discipline their teenage children for using is because they don’t consider her adequately feminist? That’s…literally insane. A feminist perspective would be to look at the lack of symmetrical name calling and vitriol targeted at the man in question and wonder how deep the societal misogyny goes— and this is even after the thread ostensibly acknowledge that he’s “more”’in the wrong.

At least in this corner of the internet she’s quite a lot like Hester Prynne: she hasn’t done a thing to anyone posting here but they need to freak out and call her names and complain she has no “shame” and hasn’t carried out her punishment correctly. It’s really a lot more telling about this group than it is about the woman in question. [/quote]

Have you read the Internet? Listened to a talk show or late night television?  Seen the memes? Levine is getting shredded.  A giant huge mockery is being made of him, what he did and his ridiculous text messages.  YES- people are tearing him apart.  AND the Celtics head coach is taking way more heat in public opinion then his consensual married co-worker. It was a man that ratted him out.  Men and women are condemning these cheating men, but that doesn’t fit your narrative I guess.[/quote]

OK and that brings me back to my very first question on this thread— is the point of the thread to say that there has not been enough cruelty towards the woman in this situation and we need to immediately put her on a platform so the “virtuous” women can scream about her? Because they need to have that chance to scream about her?

Really it’s genuinely shocking to me to watch this because I bet a lot of these same women would tell their daughters not to call people sluts or trash but they have a real drive to make sure whatever the man did we not forget to shame the woman too.  I will make the exception that in the very unlikely case his wife posts here, if she had a rant I’d think that was understandable.

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PP you are fighting a valiant but useless fight on this site/subforum. There are a few posters who are so beyond hurt they cannot see any other shade of existence except their own, and they don't have the capacity for empathy. They are just swinging aimlessly at every thread and every poster.

Life, of course, is complicated. And the tradition of women get blamed is unfortunately alive and well.[/quote]

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