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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Conspicuous consumption competition. The other kids have designer this and limited edition that and all the latest tech. It’s impossible to keep up. We preach non-materialism at home and our kids are mostly believers, but having constant conversations about reigning in jealousy and us always having to say no really drains me. And it drains the kids. [/quote]

I could have written this exact statement. I have noticed this too at our child's private middle school. It pains me bc I grew up in a family that struggled to make ends meet, and I worked very hard to get to where we are today. Our child thinks we are poor, whereas we have no trouble paying for food, shelter, and discretionary expenses within reason. Our teaching of non-materialism isn't sticking the way we had hoped, though maybe this is just a phase.

Also, the kids live throughout the DC area so it's really hard to get together outside school.

We might switch back to public - each has its pros and cons. [/quote]

Conspicuous consumption depend on the school and your child's group of friends. I have experience with 3 of the top schools. I see this behavior at all of them, but not from my older DCs group of friends.  They are actually very down to earth even though they come from wealthy families. My younger one has some annoying friends in this regard.  We don't materially spoil our kids. Period.  When I hear comments about what so and so has I usually respond with something like yes those are all very nice things indeed and if you save your pocket money.... or yes, they do have a very large bueatiful home don't they... ours is perfect for our family.  The truth is we can afford all those things, we (parents) don't want them.  If you don't value materialism, your kids won't either (eventually). That said we still have fantastic vacations and experiences.  These are not conspicuous though as very few people see these things.[/quote]

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