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[quote=Anonymous]I am 40, and have been married a long time, since 25. Met DH when I was 23.

Based on what I have seen in this thread, I agree with lots of it, based on what I have seen over the years with my former classmates, neighbors, relatives, friends etc. At least as far as getting married, having kids, having a home in a good area etc.

Know that no one's life is perfect. Mine is great but I wouldn't call it perfect. I have lots of friends similarly situated to me and many would call our lives picture perfect but everyone has struggles.

This said, about being single versus married,

--Living together before marriage has seemed a dead-end for a number of women I've seen. They break up and lose several prime years. No "spark" or excitement for the man to propose.

--Good quality men get taken off the dating market by 40. Past 40, if they are never-married, it's very unlikely they propose.

--My own DH is from a small town part of the country where people get married much earlier than DC, and was in his 30s (several years older than me) when proposed. Though I was not "looking" for marriage at the time we had a great relationship and those factors I'm sure weighed in. (Hometown friends already married or getting married -- that makes it more likely a man will propose.)

--Certainly girls who are pretty, slender, smart, agreeable, charming get more attention and have more options.
 
--Other factors include financial stability (for marriage, debt student loans or bad spending practices can be a deal breaker for men and women) and having a nice family.

--Height helps being "marriage material" for a lot of men as they want tall offspring. But shorter girls will get more attention for dating. Both have advantages and disadvantages.

Another big factor is women who have narrow categories of boxes to tick (such as income levels of only a tiny percentage of men in the area, with high numbers of women competing for those same men) which are basically their way of saying they plan to end up alone. Rather than have chemistry with a good quality man and have children and build a life together.[/quote]

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