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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A friend asked to join my book club. The thing is, the women in my book club have known one another for a decade (we all had daughters in the same preschool) and have been meeting for 10 years. It's a pretty specific dynamic.

The friend who asked to join also lives in our town but doesn't know any of these women; she's my neighbor and has been looking for a club to join. She is lovely, and I want to be inclusive. I also feel like it would just change the dynamic of the book club. I'm typing this and feeling weird. I want to say yes! It's also just this certain group from a certain time period of people who know each other really well and have never had a new member for years and years.  Maybe those of you in a longtime book club get it.

She just texted me asking if she could come to the next meeting. What do I say?[/quote]

You are a terrible friend.  If you said no to me I would know how your truly felt about our relationship and I would let it die.  But sounds like that is what you want.[/quote]
Are you crazy? If you are my friend you have to belong to everything I do? You are nuts.[/quote]

I am not nuts but, if we had a good relationship and op admitted she liked me and then said I couldn't join the book club that probably only meets once a month that would hurt my feelings.  Sorry I am not a robot that you are.  That does not mean I want to join everything you do.  And you really shouldn't throw word like "crazy" or "nuts" because it is very shaming of people who do have mental issues.  This is why we have a mental crisis because people like you put a stigma on it.[/quote]

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