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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP there are lots of people on this board who simply hate greek life and can't imagine why anyone would do it. Got news for you, many of them don't even have kids in college and once they do, their kid may well be interested themselves. Why? because it's a way to make a large college smaller, to find "your people" which we are always talking about on this board. It's much easier to find your people in a group of 200 sorority sisters, as opposed to 15,000 under grads.

It's also just fun. They have an active social life, lots of parties and activities including charity events, and there are lots of leadership opportunities.

And again, there is a huge emphasis on diversity in greek life these days. These are not white blond girls anymore, though I can't speak for the SEC schools. My DDs house represents every ethnicity on campus and is a home for all their members, from the studious to the party girl and everyone in between.  She has met a group of girls that she really enjoys being around (especially the older girls) and never would have met them had it not been for her sorority.

In reality, it's not much different than any other social club or even sports, or academic etc. Yes the rush process is tough, and that's because there are SO many people interested. When you have 15 houses and a thousand people interested, you are going to have to have a selection process.  [/quote]

Actually, my kids have always steered clear of groups and organizations that cause drama, treat people unfairly, and judge others based on superficial traits.  They have done this since ES, when they quickly realized the Queen Bees were downright mean to many kids and excluded them and made fun of them.  While my kid was not excluded, they were smart enough to realize this was wrong and didn't join those groups.  Similarly in MS and HS, steered clear of the "mean girls" and "popular crowd" where your status could change daily.  She watched a good friend go thru it in HS and just supported her; watched the friend wander around alone at Homecoming because she'd been ditched by the "popular friends" yet wouldn't/couldn't talk to her other group of friends 4 of them for fear of being further excluded from the popular group.  My kid is nice enough to remain good friends with this girl, and just be there when she "has the time for her and that group of friends", but they all hurt watching the friend deal with the ups/downs/meanness of the popular group and wish she could see she doesn't have to do that to herself. 
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I wonder if your kids inherited your superiority complex?  The women in my sorority weren’t half as judgmental as you demonstrated yourself to be in one post.[/quote]

Nothing judgmental at all.  These are simply the facts of what was happening.  And yes, HS students who would ditch a person from their group if they "talk/associate" with kids who are not part of the "popular crowd" are nasty, mean kids.  My kid and their friends literally watched their good friend wandering around ALONE at Homecoming but too afraid to associate with them, despite their best attempts.  They witness this everyday at school as well, but yet this friend will Hang with them outside school (when schedule allows), went on a "senior getaway" with them, just not during the prized senior week.  Sorry for you if you view this as normal, but it's not.

Similarly, if you think the queen bees who start controlling groups and being downright mean by excluding other girls in ES are normal, then you have issues.  My kids were taught to be inclusive and kind.  Not everyone is apparently.

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Holy lack of self awareness![/quote]
Can you expand upon your criticism of pp's comment? Is it that you want more tolerance of intolerance? Less judging of a judgmental process? Not to put words in your mouth but would like to understand. [/quote]

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