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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If something is really important to you, you shouldn't pretend like it isn't. Since you are dating and you have the past experiences with your ex and your BF knows that, it would be weird if he didn't do something. But you have to not catastrophize. [/quote]

This.  You get to decide what's important to you in a relationship, OP.

That said, wait and see if he does something, either before your trip or after you return.  If nothing, you might consider ONE TIME explicitly telling him, that was really important to me, so wtf?

You could also just end it, again, if he does nothing. [b] Having to spell everything out for people can get really old, especially if you've already been reasonably clear.  Some people require more spoon-feeding than others, and it's fine to decide you don't want to do that for the rest of your life.[/b][/quote]

I get that you can't expect people to mind read, and you can't be upset at somebody for not doing something they didn't know you wanted them to do. But the point of dating is to see how comparable you are. If you want somebody who pays attention to things you are sensitive about and tries to make you happy, you can just focus on dating those people instead of trying to get the person you're dating to be the person you want.

And there is nothing wrong with being sensitive about things. Most issues in relationships stem from things we are sensitive about. Like,[b] I had a lot of issues in my past with people not believing what I told them[/b], and my husband knows that and makes an effort to give me the benefit of the doubt even though he is naturally skeptical. But once he forgot our anniversary and I didn't care, and if I thought DH was going to forget my birthday I wouldn't mind reminding him. People are different and partners should respect and support that. [/quote]

Uhhh, wtf??

One person is understandable... but what sounds like a LOT of people not believing you?

Please make it make sense. 
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