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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also, you have to remember the divorce/custody decisions did not happen in current times.   OP's child is 18, so she was born in/around 2004.   I am the pp whose husband was in the military, and we also have a child born in 2004.   In 2004-2005 there were heavy deployments to Iraq, and OP even stated he was involved in those.   Difficult to go to court and fight for custody from Iraq.   Even harder to argue that you deserve partial custody when you also must truthfully state you can literally get called up and told you're leaving to an undisclosed location for an undetermined amount of time--and you will be leaving in 3 days.  How exactly would OP get his daughter back to Germany to her mother under those conditions?

In the military, single parents are required to have a care plan for their children--exactly because of what I just wrote above.   if your unit requires you to deploy--you can't just say "Sure, give me a few weeks to figure out who can watch my kid for me."   No, it doesn't work like that.[/quote]

Then come up with a care plan. Parents? Siblings? Etc.[/quote]

Op did not mention if he has parents/siblings able and willing to do that for him.  Maybe he's an only child.   Maybe his parents were physically incapable of taking care of a young child for an undetermined amount of time (3 weeks, 3 months, 18 months?  Who knows?) at a moments notice.   Could your parents?   Can you realistically say that you could call your parents right now and say "I can't tell you where I'm going or how long I'll be gone-but I need you to come over tomorrow and watch my kid for me until I get back?"  I know my parents sure couldn't do that for me.[/quote]

If I were in the military and had to put a plan in place, I would come up with one. Presumably [b]someone in the military is aware of this before they have a child.[/b][/quote]

Yeah, well OP probably thought they were going to be a family and stay together.  I'm sure he didn't go into having a child with the thought that she would refuse to leave Germany and divorce.[/quote]

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