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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow. Helicopter parent alert. [/quote]

Are you kidding? This is the total opposite of a helicopter. I am a helicopter. My kids would not for one second be without a full stock of vitamins and meds, housing secured for the following year, and the fear of god in them for not getting strong grades.

I applaud OP because I think she is doing many things that will foster independence in her children. I can certainly learn from her.[/quote]

My parents taught me to value grades well before I started college. I dealt with figuring out housing. I *think* I might have generally told them what I ended up getting each semester, but I honestly don’t remember for sure.

Basically, they helped me move in freshman year, visited me occasionally, and that was about it.

The whole idea is to prepare your kid for college beforehand, so that they can be independent when they go. They’re adults. [/quote]

Np Some people mature later than others or have disabilities OR need more support than you did.  If you can't understand this ask yourself [b]why it bothers you so much when it doesn't affect your life at all.[/b]   Judge not or you will be judged yourself.[/quote]

DP. When excessive hand-holding into early adulthood becomes the norm, it does affect us all, and I think that’s why so many get particularly bent out of shape about this kind of stuff. [/quote]

It 100 percent impacts all of us because your kids start to work for us and guess what, they are terrible employees!  Because they can't figure anything out and think they are super special.[/quote]

Exactly.

And lest you think “oh the kids are fine,” they are not. My sister is a professor and constantly talks about how the undergrads can’t figure out how to operate responsibly and appropriately. Just a few examples:

- 98% of them just do not read the syllabus, and therefore are constantly asking questions that would be easy to answer if they just read it

- they virtually all expect extensions on their assignments

- a kid asked her today what she did over the weekend. She said, “I worked on my book.” Kid: You’re writing a book? What is it about? Sister: (named research topic) Kid: Sounds boring.

- several kids have asked for her cell number, so they can text her questions

This is at an R1 university. Teach your kids how to act in an appropriate manner; otherwise, they’ll make fools of themselves in college. [/quote]

Tell her to discipline them and grow a backbone. [/quote]

If their parents had done this, she wouldn’t have to.[/quote]

Well first of all, not every kid grows up cultured enough to understand academia or even what professors research/why they research. [/quote]

That excuses telling a professor “your book sounds boring”?[/quote]

:roll: No. But you couldn't seem to grasp that the average college freshmen has no idea that professors write books or what kind of books those are.[/quote]

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