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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For all these “high stat” kids, how many of you are also submitting 4’s or 5’s from
Your AP tests to show that you actually earned the A? Thay may be the difference in many cases. Lots and lots of public high schools are handing out A’s way too easily. And as for SAT scores, does anyone find it weird that 1400
And 1500 scores seem like a dime a dozen these days? The curve is unreal which is even making those seem less valuable. You have to show you earned those A’s so you need AP Scores and you need excellent teacher recommendations.[/quote]

+1. For anybody reading this who has not had a kid go through the process, a "high stats" gpa--and gpa is very important--at a public in fcps or mcps is a 4.0 uw. If your kid is below that have realistic expectations. It doesn't mean they won't get into a selective school, but they need options. For anybody "unhooked", regardless of their stats, make sure they have a couple of safeties they are excited about attending. [/quote]

This is true. If you don't have straight As, you are in for a world of hurt. Sadly, this isn't going to help the mental health of highly capable students for years to come. The pressure of one test is nothing compared to the day in day out pressure to never make a mistake or have a bad day. I think colleges have just made the whole mental health problem much, much worse.[/quote]
+1.

My next kid is not interested in any of this. He took calc BC as a soph, but is choosing fewer weighted classes than he could for junior year. He has a 4.0 uw and will likely have a high standardized test score. He seems to be opting out of aspiring for highly selective schools, i.e. rejects the idea of playing the game. Does not want the stress of the competition to get there, nor a competitive atmosphere when he does. (Which reminds me, "collaborative rather than competitive" is now a factor for his college search, whenever that begins.)[/quote]

My “high stats” DD did the same.  She was at a pressure cooker school and hated the competition.  She didn’t apply to T25 because she had no desire to go to school with competitive gunners who are all about the grade.  She chose a less selective (but still great) school and could not be happier.  She found her place and her people.[/quote]

DD is a junior at Whitman High School in Bethesda.  I can’t wait to get her the h@ll out of this school.   Snooty kids who get over 1400 on first SAT run around talking about how they or their parents want them to take the test again because what they got isn’t good enough.  It completely deflated my daughter .   It’s gross.  These kids and their parents are just gross . [/quote]
My older kids have gone through Whitman. The behavior you describe is not “snooty” but stats obsessed. There are certainly plenty of gunners (with gunner parents) at Whitman who place a huge emphasis on getting top grades and test scores. But it’s a massive school, and there are also tons of kids who are focused more on activities they enjoy, including hanging with friends.  You are in a position to help your daughter with an excellent learning opportunity right now. She still has time to focus on kids and things she genuinely enjoys, and her ability to become a happy resilient person will increase a lot if she is not comparing herself with zero-sum gamers. [/quote]

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