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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can go to court and fight for full custody but that would be pretty terrible for him and the kids.  Or, just leave the kids with him and take the job.  You can have visits on holidays and summers. [/quote]

Sounds like I have to persuade him to let me go…[/quote]

You mean and take the kids with you?

I mean, speaking as a father, my answer to you would be I support you going and will work with you to give you as much opportunity to see the children as possible, but I would go to the mat in court to prevent you from taking my kids with you. Your choices are to not take the job and remain close to the kids or take the jobs and see the kids sometimes. Those are quite literally the only two choices. The other one where you take your children with you? It's not happening. And that IS a hill I would die on.[/quote]

And WHY would you do that?

Why is that in the best interest of the children?[/quote]

Because after a divorce the children need stability, not to be dragged to another country. They also need their fathers as much as their mothers.

If a dad said has divorcing and wanted to take the kids with him to live in another country and see mom a couple of times a year, how would you respond?

It is almost as if you think kids need mom more than dad or something. Even if mom wants to drag them to another country to work what is likely a demanding job, leaving them in the care of foreign teachers and nannies. How is THAT good for the children? [/quote]

Why do you say they need their fathers?

Especially if their fathers never did much child raising nor want to?

Why? Where is the data or study that makes such a blanket statement that abusive, negligent, careless, ill, or mentally disordered people get solo unsupervised custody time with a child? 
That doesn’t sound best for the child. 
That is some generic Parents Rights BS trumping what is actually best for a child and care of the child. [/quote]

It doesn't. The kids are better off without a horrible parent obviously.

Your kids can have a great education overseas, probably better.

Ignore some of these posters. They've never lived in another country. The problem is...would you want your kids to go see him for the entire summer. Especially if he is irresponsible.
And having to take long flights. You're probably better off staying nearby, and taking the kids in the summer to travel etc. If he doesn't like babysitting then you'll have them 90% of the time anyways. [/quote]

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