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The biggest difference that we had to get on the same page about was paying for our kids to go to college. To me, it was a huge financial priority, as my parents paid for my college and graduate school and I entered adulthood with no student loans. My husband's parents didn't go to college, and he paid his way. He just paid off his student loans last year.  He thinks that paying your own way makes you scrappier. I think our society is set up in a way that its a big disadvantage. Interestingly, my parents who have far less saved for retirement are the ones who contributed to our kids' college funds. My in-laws will not contribute on principal. But they would consider buying my child the latest and greatest video gaming system....strange to me![/quote]

Same issue here.  DH grew up poor but he does very well now and has more than adapted to his new income (to the point where I feel like he sometimes over compensates, but whatever).  2 biggest issues in our marriage were (1) DH didn't feel the urgency to save for college - he thought our kids could get a full ride like he did, but the only reason he got a full ride is because his parents had no income or assets; and (2) DH now has to care for his parents who have almost no money saved for retirement, so money leaves our household to cover all kinds of expenses for his aging parents.  These are two big stressors in our marriage because my background is totally the opposite - my parents placed a huge value on education and paying for it, and they don't need any help from us. Also, DH tries a lot harder to fit in with his colleagues who grew up wealthy; whereas, I could care less and am more comfortable in my own skin.  [/quote]

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