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[quote=Anonymous][quote=taketothebank][quote]I don’t send them to poorer schools because I don’t agree with the parenting and behaviors and academic achievements of the kids at those schools [b]now[/b] do I want to live in an unsafe neighborhood. Has nothing to do with the principal or the teacher.
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The poster at 8:34 is right.  These posts are derailing the thread.

I posted so that, if you have any guts, you can respond to this privately.

Finally, it is "nor" not "now."[/quote]

Hey Take it to the Bank. This was the answer you were looking for. I have no other answer on why I don't want to send my kids to a poor school or why I don't want to live among poorer people. I have no idea what you are looking for but this is why. I didn't dodge. I said I wouldn't answer but then saw that I specifically answered your question and you didn't even notice.

My ex ended up becoming an addict and his family all thought that was perfectly fine. They didn't get him help. It was ok he lost his job. "Things happen" is what I was told. Then he started cheating because "he was unhappy". Basically I found his family allowed him to fail whereas in an upper middle income family you are not really given the freedom to fail as often. You are given help to bring you back up in a middle income family and this isn't even money related. We sent our kids to public school and my ex went to private school even as a low income family. I spoke about this with the college example. He's left his family and refuses to pay for college because "the kids don't really need college or can pay their own way". I  was told he didn't need to pay much even by his own family because my family would provide for them as if we make millions more when that isn't the case. It was a matter of maybe $70k a year my dad made compared to his. With the addiction. With the job changes and failures. It's all just allowed and respected as a choice. I really don't have anything more to say on it. This is my experience and that of my friends.

It's clear you disagree but for you to make your own point, I think it's best that you just talk about your own experiences. I don't see how you are adding to mine. In  my experience the lower income family is often jealous of the other family's money and they just allow more reckless behavior. I don't have a lot of experience with the very rich or the very poor. This is strictly about upper middle income families wanting to hold onto their status and lower income families not being comfortable with the parameters of upper income living. This is just a comparison of people living in condominiums and old houses they own surrounded by working class people verses a typical four bedroom colonial surrounded by professional class people.[/quote]

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