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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This should not be a question, and the fact it is, says your DH is a douche or  a momma's boy.

Unless there is a medical reason, like she gets motion sickness, the MIL sits in the back.

Are you from a conservative family or something?
[/quote] wow. [/quote]

double wow[/quote]

Triple wow.  The sad thing is that she probably doesn't realize why all the "wows."  Imagine knowing her IRL.[/quote]
I'm the first PP, and I'm Asian American.  :wink:

My mom and MIL both sit in the back unless they have health issues.[/quote]

This^. Age or gender isn't a free card to get your way. Respectful and submissive are two different words. Also, expecting someone to treat you like their own mother isn't fair as you don't owe anything to them, your spouse does but not you, you owe it to your parents. You should be kind to spouse's parent but any more than that depends upon how your relationship with them is. It can be anywhere from being polite acquaintances to loving parent-adult child relation.

I hope you remember this when your kids put you in a crappy nursing home.  [/quote]
My spouse and I take care of our moms as much as we can; we live thousands of miles away.  They are both in their 80s, and they both live at home.  I help my mom pay her bills.  If they need nursing care, we'd help pay for that and make sure it's a nice place.

Why would it be any harder to get out of the car sitting in the passenger side if there are four doors?

Like I said, unless there is a health issue, why do people assume the MIL gets to sit up front?

IMO, that assumption typifies the hierarchical nature of the MIL/DIL dynamic.  In my marriage, my MIL nor my mother  dictate anything about our lives.[/quote]

Holy smokes there is a lot to unpack in your little diatribe so I'll just stick with the most important issue.  It is this:

You don't see that your mother or your mother-in-law are elders and, as such, that you should defer to them because it is a sign of respect?

Wow.  Something went terribly wrong in your upbringing.[/quote]

DP, but clearly *your* upbringing was stuck in the 50s.[/quote]
+1  Sorry, but I don't "defer to my elders".  I live in the 21st century, and I'm thankful for it everyday.

I come from a culture where we not only are expected to defer to our elders but to men, as well, and there are huuuge issues around that, both in business and in personal lives.  No thank you.

I'm thoughtful of my MIL in other ways, but I don't generally "defer to them". My mother already tried to pull that on me when my children were born in terms of doing it her way.  I shut that down. [/quote][/quote]

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