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[quote=Anonymous]My DH and 2 of my 3 kids have ADHD.  I completely understand the partnering challenges this presents and being the person who works a harder to ensure supports are in place to better ensure what needs to get done, gets done.  A big reason my relationship with my DH works is because he recognizes his limitations in this area and either puts in place or lets me put in place supports to better ensure he pulls his weight.  He is, by no means, perfect and getting him to put stuff on the calendar has been a decades old battle.  But, when it's his turn to do something, he pulls himself away from whatever has his interest and does it.  He's never forgotten to pick up a kid.

I gently suggest, though, that ADHD is not the problem.  The problem is your DH chooses not to recognize what the priority is.  Yes, it's hard to shift attention from something preferred to something not preferred.  But there are a ton of tools/prompts to better ensure that doesn't happen - like the timers, reminders, beepers, etc.  If your DH is so impacted by his ADHD that he is unable to shift his attention to something so important as picking up your child, he cannot be trusted to care for your child.  And, that kind of impairment would carry over into other critical areas of your life.  It should be a dealbreaker.

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