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I mean, it’s okay to question OP’s apparent haplessness in the birth control department. There are so many damn options. One mistake, okay. Multiple mistakes? Sloppy.[/quote]

Not sloppy. It happens. My OB wanted to do a study on our super fertility! [/quote]

Off topic, but is “super fertility” really the term for this…? More like “body doesn’t function as expected on birth control.” What kind were you using? I’ve gotten pregnant 3 times in the first month trying and other than that have never been pregnant. So I must be pretty fertile AND my birth control has worked for 15+ years.[/quote]

See this on super fertility:

https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/what-is-super-fertility-recurrent-miscarriages[/quote]

Right, that’s not what OP says she has - is that your point? Birth control would prevent was is being described in that article.
I just have a problem with this idea of “I’m so fertile, birth control just doesn’t work for me!” I really don’t think that’s an accurate way of looking at it.[/quote]

+1 this really drives me crazy. Fertility is binary, you are either capable of getting pregnant or you are not. It's not a spectrum. Someone people aren't magically able to thwart birth control. [/quote]

You are absolutely wrong. Fertility is NOT binary. See number 10. Women whose birth control fails are “very, very fertile”.

https://www.bustle.com/wellness/signs-you-might-be-super-fertile-because-your-body-can-tell-you-a-lot

Also:
https://natalist.com/blogs/learn/signs-of-high-fertility
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DP, and those sources aren't great, but of course fertility is on a spectrum.  I'm one of those woman who, when not on hormonal contraception, started menstruating at the exact same time of day, every 28 days.  [b]I got pregnant within the first month of trying for each of our three kids, when I was between the ages of 35 and 40 years.  [/b]No miscarriages.  Compare that with women who do get pregnant, but it takes 6-12 months of trying, or women who get pregnant with interventions.  Now, if birth control fails repeatedly, that's almost certainly human error, coupled with someone on the more fertile end of the spectrum.

As for this thread: do what works for your family, OP.  As long as you don't need to tell yourself "most families function better with a SAHP" or some other rationalization to be happy, it's no one's business but your own.[/quote]

You're kind of proving the point, PP. You are clearly fertile but somehow made it all the way to 35 without multiple (or any?) accidental pregnancies. Clearly your birth control was effective.
I've also gotten pregnant 3 times on the first try and other than that, never had an accident. I've had some situations where, if I were not on top of them, I probably would've had an accident. I've had 3 IUD's placed, and TWO of them had issues. If I got pregnant on those IUD's, it wouldn't be because I'm super fertile - it's because something about my body makes it hard to place an IUD correctly.
Birth control pills block ovulation. It doesn't matter what your egg quality is or the quality of your uterine lining - if you get pregnant on birth control, it's because it failed to stop your ovulation. Not because your eggs are just "that good."[/quote]

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