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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just awful. I can't imagine causing DH's parent's to drive in the dark. You're sick of hosting and should stop. That's fine. But once you agree then you need to actually be hospitable. [/quote]

Please get some reading comprehension skills.  They are not driving in the dark.  OP deserves to have a day to prepare (or, dare I say it, relax) and a late afternoon arrival time is perfectly reasonable.[/quote]

No, the change occurred only after the MIL pushed.  Otherwise OP was perfectly happy to insist that they arrive at the time she demanded.  DP.[/quote]

NP. Wow, typical DCUM extremist. This is how normal conversations go:

Hostess: “I have some prep to do, could you please show up at 5? I’ll have dinner ready at 6.”
Normal MIL: “I understand being busy with last-minute stuff! But can we make it 4 so that we don’t have to drive in the dark?”
Hostess: “Oh, of course; sorry, I didn’t think of that.”

Scene.

See how that is just straightforward communication, with no “demanding” on the part of the hostess, and no wheedling or whining on the part of the Normal MIL? This is how we behave in my family and in my husband’s family. I can’t imagine my mom, MIL or any of our aunts acting like shrews who stamp their feet when they don’t like the invite time. Have a need? State the need. Drama-free.
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