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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, I agree the word "make" her get a job is poor choice of language.

Some good advice here and to answer some questions: she has a good degree fromm an expensive private school (as do most of her friends who are SAH mom's) so she could go back to what she was doing before SAH and probably make 75-100k full time which after taxes would basically just lay for school.

The reason I mention that is because I wonder if she would still think private is worth it if she literally had to endure a year of all the nonsense they work brings just for the joy of saying out kids are in private school.

As others have pointed out, it's just as much about that I see private school as pointless. In fact, I probably have a bit of a chip about it since I started at my company with a dozen others, almost all of them from Ivy or southern Ivy (Duke, Candy) and I surpassed all of them. Most aren't even in the field anymore. Point being, where you go to college doesn't matter as much as people think unless you are in a super rare field that needs a pedigree (like a Supreme Court lawyer). Where you go to high school matters less and middle school?

If this was a cheap expense, then it wouldn't be a hill to die on but it's an enormous expense. Can I afford it? For sure. Does it mean I will work at least 3 more years over this, for sure.

I suppose it just comes down to a philosophical difference as to whether private is an actual benefit vs a country club status thing.

Advice on a productive conversation? Am I allowed to anonymously sneer that my wife's very expensive private school pedigree didn't exactly lead to a good ROI?[/quote]

Op, I went to both public and private. I’m now watching my step kids go to one of the best public high schools in suburban DC. I really wish their parents could afford private high school. It kills me to know what they’re missing out on. You don’t know what private school kids get in comparison to what you got. Smaller classes, better writing instruction, nice teachers, bathrooms and cafeterias that can actually use rather than fear. There are so many administration snafus that wind up screwing the kids over.

You don’t see the value in a private school education. It’s not just a status symbol if it’s a good school. It confers a lot of benefits to your kids that are lifelong.[/quote]

This is because of the ridiculous state of public schools. I grew up in a place where there were excellent public schools. Class size the same as my kids’ privates, teachers the same or better. Excellent facilities. Classmates went to Ivies, as did I — ran circles around private school kids. Public schools are underfunded and it’s an absolute travesty that in such an excellent nation we can’t figure out how to invest in our human capital and lift all boats.[/quote]

Not directed at you PP but just wanted to use your comment to point out that without private schools public schools would be a thousand times worse.  Paying for a public school doesn’t exempt you from paying taxes that benefit public schools.  Think about what would happen and if all of the privates shut down tomorrow.[/quote]

All the political influence that private school parents have would go toward making public schools better? [/quote]

Maybe in a few decades.  Education in US is a broken system (actually 10 of thousands of broken semi independent systems). That isn’t going to be fixed in the 12-14 years that the parents could change it, would care to change it.[/quote]

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