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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t understand what a crisis it is to OP that MIL was in the hall, and inquiring if they needed help. Maybe she is trying to keep FIL from being woken up as well? Maybe she was also waiting to use the restroom? Maybe as she was up, she was going to get a tea or something? Maybe she couldn’t go back to sleep and was walking around her home? Why does it have to be awful and meddling, can’t it just be that she is up as well? It doesn’t sound like she complained, she just checked in. This was prowling and being annoying, apparently. MILs can’t do anything right.. next post will be “MIL never helps!” [/quote]

If MIL were making tea, she'd go to the kitchen without stopping to loudly ask what was wrong. She knew what was "wrong," baby was crying and needed a night feed. She wasn't "helping," as she had been told multiple times--even before the visit, in fact--that the parents did not want her involvement for the night feeds.

"Trying to keep FIL from being woken up"...how? By loudly asking in a non-whisper "what was wrong" when she already knew the answer? When offering to "help," again, when she had already been told several nights in a row no?

If MIL cared so much about FIL not being woken up, she should have said yes to OP/DH's offer to stay in a hotel.

"Checking in" *one time* is fine. But when you're on the fourth or fifth night of being told they don't want your involvement, and being asked *again* to whisper instead of talking at full volume...that's obnoxious.[/quote]

She's old! She might not realize how loud she is! Maybe she has cognitive decline or hearing loss. Just because you think she's perfectly healthy doesn't mean she is. Jesus, some people just WANT to be offended and angry. This is your husband's mom, your baby's grandmother, and you are acting like she is some carnival performer who is busking in the hallway and harassing you for tips.[/quote]

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