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[quote=Anonymous]The sad thing is all these women who insist their income was perpetually sized at only $50k a year and thus justified never going back to work.

Listen, if (as you all insist above) your husband is such a high earner that (a) you could stay home forever, (b) the courts would award alimony and (c) your staying home allowed him to be more financially successful than had you gone back to work….. then we are talking about high income households. So by definition I’m assuming in the dc area, we’re talking about families making at least $300k.  Because there are tons of dc area jobs paying $200k working 9-5 hours for people with graduate degrees. So no reason to have a sahw at that income.

So your husband makes at least $300k.  Which statistically means he is well educated, which also statistically means you are well educated.  Statistically, you both graduated from college or grad school with similar earning potential.

But at some point, likely before kids (if your earnings were already so low by the time kids came around) you were cool letting your husband go to work every day why you took an extremely mommy track job with no earning potential.  If you’re well educated, this likely means your job was pretty low key, low stress, easy hours, not so many responsibilities. The reason your earning potential sucks isn’t because you stayed home to take care of kids. It’s because you decided way before then that you didn’t want to work as hard as your husband.

You may feel comfortable with that decision because you like that your husband is willing to support you and let you be “happy” (as others have said above). But the reality is that there were never equal contributions in this type of marriage, and it’s just ethically off putting that the law still rewards women who do this.  [/quote]

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