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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My boys got married at 28 and 26.  It had nothing to do with age.  They fell in love. They were ready.  Neither one of them cared about partying or sleeping around by that age.  They were ready to settle down.  [b]My Daughters-in-law are so great for them.[/b]  Why would they have waited?  They knew a good thing when they had it. [/quote]

The bolded statement bothers me.  The attitude of a woman needing to be “good for” a man both infantilizes men by making it seem like they NEED some one to help them through life and degrades women by making it seem like their job is to “support” their men.

This is in contrast to a man and woman coming together as individuals that support each other.

Your daughters in law do not exist for your sons. They are their own people.  Your language here makes it seem like you may give this idea lip service, but deep down, you think they are supposed to just support your sons, not be their own people.

Maybe you just chose your words poorly, but that is how I am reading it right now. [/quote]

[b]They are good for each other[/b]. The topic of the thread specifically mentions men. [b] I guess I thought that was obvious[/b].

You need to read The Four Agreements.  [/quote]

Already did when I was in college 20+ years ago.

It is an old book. ISn’t the first agreement to be honorable with your words or something like that?

Like I said, maybe your language isn’t in agreement with your actual ideas. 
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