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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m reading through this thread and I can’t help but wonder if the one defensive poster who lashes out at anyone who disagrees with her is the OP. I’m wondering if perhaps her daughter was excluded from the party and there is no friend. I suspect she’s on here attempting to gain some perspective on how to handle this situation for her daughter. It’s seems a bit codependent. As if the Mom is internalizing this situation as if it’s happening to her instead of her daughter. [/quote]

+1[/quote]

Interesting. [/quote]

OP here. The only comment I’ve written is the one on the first page where I identified myself. So that’s not me. I talked to DD. She doesn’t really know why she’s not included or doesn’t want to share. She doesn’t seem to think multiple people don’t want her included.  I’m going to just ask friend A if she is including everyone in the group (who will be together earlier in the day for their joint activity) and go from there. Of course, I’ve been stressing about this, and by this point, who knows what has transpired between these girls. B might now know what’s going on. [/quote]

NP. OP, I think if you are really friend's with girl A's mom, I would be even more direct and tell her you heard that B was not invited and ask her what was up. If I were A's mom I would definitely want to know. Although there could be some situations where I would understand why, I would not be afraid to "force an invite" (as A's mom...obviously you cannot force anything). And my child would understand that being an a-hole about said invite was also not acceptable. It's weird to me how many parents on here feel like their daughters are free to act like dick$ but there is nothing they can do about it?[/quote]

I would be so upset if my child did not invite one person in a group that hangs out. and I would never model this for her by excluding someone who is part of the friend group. What a piece of trash.[/quote]

I agree with the above 2 pp’s. Unless B had been purposefully really mean to my DD, I would insist we invite her. But also we discuss the invite list ahead of time and discuss things like if you invite friend X you will need to invite friend Y, etc. This is just basic hostess etiquette and how I was raised. If Mom A was truly my friend I would give her the heads up and at least give her a chance to rectify it.[/quote]

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