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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would say that there are a lot of reasons why people can't get divorced.  The "just get divorced" trope is a bit ridiculous when there is very little that pushes a judge to not grant 50/50 custody if the other parent desires.  When you are in a miserable marriage with someone who is addicted, depressed, verbally abusive, or whatever, it is hard to contemplate leaving your child with this person half of the time.

That being said, no it is not justified.  From personal experience, cheating takes away part of your soul.  You are left more empty after the "relationship" than before.

I understand why people cheat and don't judge but I can't justify it because it destroys everyone, including the cheater, no matter how poor a marriage is.
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I agree with this speaking from experience. It is soul-splitting in a way that is hard to describe and that disqualifies you from future full relationships because the self-knowledge really doesn’t go away. When people are taught not to do it they are seldom or never taught exactly why—what the inward consequences are.[/quote]

Interesting. I cheated and it didn't have a soul-crushing impact. It definitely caused some turmoil at the time but otherwise its just sex and I had plenty of it before I met spouse. Half the population has cheated and I don't think they all suffer from some personality abnormality.[/quote]

Probably that is because you lack a soul in the first place.[/quote]

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