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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You know who sounds controlling to me?  The DIL.

It is weird that the son didn't express agreement or disagreement when his wife made the announcement.  I also think the 2-week focus thing is odd.  Any relationship that needs 2 weeks of one-on-one focus is a relationship that is floundering.  It sounds to me like the DIL is trying to make one last attempt and the way she is doing it is by getting the son away from friends/family and his support system.

The whole thing is setting of warning bells for me.[/quote]

How is DIL controlling when she wants to take a no screen trip away from her spouse? They are married and plenty of married people want uninterrupted time together? MIL is more controlling by getting this bothered by not being able to talk to her grown married son for 2 weeks. Shows she has major enmeshment issues that she needs to resolve.

DIL probably mentioned is because it came up in convo or she knew her husband doesn't have balls to bring it up himself to his mother.

It's very common to go away with no screens. I ask my husband to do that a lot when we are away.[/quote]

I disagree with your assessment because of how the husband responded to the announcement.  His response was to sit there mutely.  That is not the response of someone who supports what his wife is saying; that is the response of someone who is being intimidated into something he doesn't want to do.  If I knew him I would start considering whether his wife was an emotional (or other) type of abuser who was trying to control her husband and alienate him from his support group.  My response would have been different if he had said "Yeah, Mom, Larla is right.  When we go away we'll be on 'no phone' status.  I'll talk to you when we get back."  He didn't.  [/quote]

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