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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They didn’t tell her all the way up to the birth? Surprise, we had a baby?

I’d be pissed too. Not shocking she’s taking it out by ignoring the baby, but she’ll probably come around. It’s just so new. Hopefully you’re validating her feelings that it was wrong for her dad and stepmom to keep it from her, because it was.[/quote]

OP here yes they video called from the hospital and said here's your sister oh and we got married. My DD hasn't been all that close to her dad ever. They get along just fine but it's more of a let's do fun things rather than have a deep meaningful relationship.[/quote]

I believe OP said he was in the military and deployed. Not sure if he is still in the military or not? 
Then he’s reaping what he sowed and I would tell him as such. It’s on him and the stepmom to fix this and they should start with a sincere apology to your DD for keeping it from her. Your job is to validate your DD’s feelings whatever they may be. Hopefully no one is forcing her to spend time at their house with the baby. [/quote]

Exactly. DD is giving the same thought and effort into the baby as was given into telling her about the baby and marriage. It wasn’t important enough to discuss with her, so it still isn’t. It’s childish…well DD is a child, with a father that started a new life and did not include her in the biggest parts of it.  She may eventually move on and when she ever sees the baby, she may warm up. But her Daddy needs to step up and own this. Apologize sincerely and include her, really include her in his new life. You, Mom can’t fix this. It will just show even more how Dad isn’t doing what HE should do.  You certainly can listen when/if she wants to talk. If there is anyone for you to speak to..it’s ExH.[/quote]

[b]DD is NOT allowed to visit in Dad's home.  What is Dad supposed to do?  Just continue to chase mom and beg for visits.[/b]  Mom remarried early and had more kids.  That is ok, but its not ok for Dad to wait 12 or so years and remarry and have more kids.    Mom is the problem here.  She made it very difficult for Dad to be a parent.

This is about money.  Dad has paid for everything and now has to cut back as there is a new baby.  He is no longer willing to be a human ATM.  Demanding $3K for driving lessons is absurd.  Most schools are under $600 and mom can teach her driving.  His portion should come out of child support at that's a normal life expense.  She sets up Dad by demanding money that isn't even reasonable and then slamming him.

$200 is generous for a birthday.[/quote]

The bolded statement must be a joke.

This man has money to throw around for useless gifts but cannot hire an attorney to make sure that he gets a proper relationaship with his child.
He is not interested in his daughter. He never has been really.

I hope OP is a troll. Otherwise, her daughter has two unbelievably terrible parents.
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Child is 16.  There is zero point as Mom will just refuse and not comply and no judge is going to enforce it.  It is probably fake but if its not then good for Dad for finally starting to say no to mom and child.  [/quote]

I believe OP said he was in the military and deployed. Not sure if he is still in the military or not? Or I'm assuming he couldn't afford to fight her in court?!
Maybe your daughter is upset now because dad might just now have a real relationship with his new baby? 
This is pretty messed up. [/quote]

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