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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. .[/quote]
Wow, everyone involved in the exchange you mention sounds awful, including you.  I don't like parents yelling things out at soccer games, including, but not limited to, curse words in front of kids.[/quote]
Let go of your pearls[/quote]
Oh please, fastest way to escalate anything is by cursing. There are many ways to tell someone to be quiet without cursing. Those who do have no interest in deescalating the issue and are just looking for a fight fueled by what they consider to be their righteous indignation.[/quote]
I'm pretty sure your attempt to ask someone to be quiet on the soccer field would likely be met with a vigorous go eff yourself. [/quote]
I wouldn’t tell a parent to be quiet in general. But if someone was yelling at my kid or the kids on my team, I would say something to the effect of please do not talk to our kids.  If they tell me to eff myself, I wouldn’t waste my time engaging that person.  I’d file a complaint with whoever I need to file a complaint with…ref, the opp. team, etc. I may also simultaneously file a restraining order against the offending person to stay away from our team. [/quote]
PP I think you're missing the point, which is that the original PP not only takes care of it immediately, but also sets a tone that spreads to the rest of the parents, which you would not accomplish with your complaint-filing.  I think that both of your approaches run the risk of backfiring, but original PP is telling you that it has worked multiple times.  With the right person in the right situation, I would go for original PP's approach over yours every time.  [/quote]

You do you. I’m not in a position to be acting that way publicly. In all honesty, my husband is a muscled guy who has just given a look or said something (without curse words) and that stopped any further comments to kids. So the point is if the PP or my telling someone to stop (in our own way) doesn’t work, going the complaint way is an option too.[/quote]

The problem with your way is that it doesn't nothing for the kid in the immediate moment. They don't need a restraining order served a week later, they need a parent to defend them then. [/quote]

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