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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sometimes it's an exit affair and he wants out of the marriage. Google it, it's a thing. [/quote]

Not as typical for men, but very common for married women in affairs.  65% unhappily married women in affairs looking for it as an exit, compared to only 20% of men, and only 2% actually marry the AP.

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+1.

I haven't read all 10 pages of this thread, but seriously how is this even a question. Most men have a strong desire to have sex.

Sometimes they just want to be with variety of women.
Sometimes they want to be with a woman who is hotter/younger than their wife
Sometimes they want to feel wanted/desired
Sometimes they have a sex addiction
Sometimes they are looking for different/wilder/kinkier sex than they have at home
Sometimes they enjoy the thrill of getting one over their wife
Sometimes they are approached or see an opportunity and they think that they won't get caught so it will be OK

Most of the time, they are cheating to get it in because they can, not some grand scheme to eventually divorce and marry the AP. 
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You forgot: Sometimes they hate women and enjoy the thrill of duping a woman into thinking he cares so that she will relent and have sex with him with the belief they have a sincere relationship, aka rape by fraud.  [/quote]

First, this is not rape by fraud. Sheesh. Don't water down the trauma of rape.

Second, this is not at all a common reason for men to have affairs. Maybe this happened to you, but then I wonder why you married a sociopath.[/quote]

She's the OW that thought the guy was going to leave for her, not the wife.  She is conflating having consensual sex with him and believing his lies as rape, instead of what it really was: her stupidity for getting involved with a married man in the first place.[/quote]

Incorrect.  It is an acknowledgment of how men in a number of these DCUM cheating threads describe how dumb their APs are — people they have ongoing affairs with, not just hook ups — to believe that there’s something more. The men take advantage of that dumbness to get what they want and are laughing at and disparaging the OW behind her back and here on DCUM.  That nuance of enjoying duping the AP certainly seems to be an additional reason for why men — at least on DCUM it seems — like to cheat. 
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Yes. If they don’t like themselves and feel bad in midlife, some might deal with that self hate and frustration this way to feel powerful.  If they are frustrate or feel powerless or unheard in their marriage they can respond this way in an affair.

But, the women are stupid to get involved with married men in the first place.  In DC these men are banging similar aged women for the most part.  These aren’t damsels in distress.  You put yourself on a website claiming you want a no strings sex partner because your husband won’t bang you, what type of guy do you think is responding?  Anyone cheating is first and foremost a LIAR.  Of course he’s not what he says or tells you.  Sorry, but these women are dumb.  It’s why I never ever considered sleeping/dating a married man even in my youth.[/quote]

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