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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t have a horse in this fight but limerence is just a term that refers to those early in the relationship butterflies where you are totally infatuated with the person and feel that your connection is so unique and extraordinary. While it is not particularly healthy, I think that many if not most people have that experience at some point, esp. in their younger years. Most of us realize that it is temporary and not the same thing as love, but many people get confused. OP I’m really sorry that you are in this situation.[/quote]

And many people refuse to accept that their spouse has fallen in love with someone else or maybe even never loved you and no it doesn't matter that you were together since you were 21 or had kids together or been through WW 3 together. People like to believe in fairy stories when it suits them, and no I'm not involved in an affair.[/quote]

I am the pp and agree with you. Sometimes people do end up happy with the AP and have long and happy lives with each other.

And sometimes people who married young do truly love one another but did not experience limerence; then one spouse does with a colleague or someone from the gym after 15 years of marriage. I think for some people in this scenario  it would be hard to say no.[/quote]

NP. I had a good marriage, a good, caring spouse. We did marry youngish. And I met somebody at a very low point after about 15 years of this happy marriage. I had never experienced limerence, but I had experienced crushes. For those of you who keep saying limerence is just a crush -- Limerence is something else entirely. And yes it was reciprocated. It evolved from just hormones to actual love. I wish I'd experienced this with my spouse, because it just blew me away. It makes me glow up just thinking about him. Regrets/No regrets.[/quote]

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