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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is your dh’s concern?   Would he agree that you have plenty of money?[/quote]

OP, I think maybe he’s jealous? And also doesn’t understand what having 2 FT working parents is like - we’ve never done it. He doesn’t cook, clean, or shop but somehow magically thinks he will do 50% of this if I go back. [/quote]

Have him do 50% for a few months before you do anything.[/quote]

This really is the best answer.  [/quote]

He won't be able to do it. Many men claim to do 50%, but I know very few that do. [/quote]

Well how about she earn 50% of the income for 3 months?[/quote]

This is a silly response, but it gets at a good point. Why should he have to prove that he can handle 50% before she even attempts to go back to work. If you are getting into these games, you have a marriage problem. OP and her husband need to talk about the family needs, including the home, finances, retirement, etc. Maybe they have plenty of money but the DH is hoping to retire at 65 instead of 70. Maybe he's worried about his industry or job going away. Maybe he's worried about how much they have saved for college. Maybe he's just sick of his job and wants flexibility to change to something lower paying. We are not getting the full story, but it seems like this is just something they should work out with games to "successfully convince" the DH. Maybe OP should convince him with good sense and realistic plans.[/quote]

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