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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I get it.  My husband is ambitious, and I like that about him.  We both are, and we strategize together about our career moves and plans.  I would probably feel like you do if I was married to someone who was content to coast in a middling career.

However, I don't see that you have any good options here.  If you divorce DH and have joint custody, you are in the same situation [b]BUT you have to hand over a big chunk of your salary in child support. [/b] You might remarry a high earner, but that person is unlikely to be willing to pay for house down payments and weddings for his step-kids.  If you marry someone who is so wealthy that it's chump change to them, then maybe.  But those men are not generally on the dating scene in big numbers.

I think your best bet is to stay put and try to get DH to step up more in other ways to ease your work stress (handling cooking, household stuff, etc).  And just try to enjoy having a handsome, funny husband with a good job, kids you love, and an impressive career.  A lot of women want what you have![/quote]

They both work. That is not likely. My ex makes almost double what I make...no alimony. Stop making things up you know nothing about. Finances could take a hit, but it is not always what people think. There are literally calculators online for VA that are pretty accurate. Also...I do not know why everyone assumes she would want to remarry. [/quote]

I said child support, not alimony.  If they have joint custody and she is a much higher earner, she will have to pay child support.

Also, I'm assuming she wants to remarry bc she specifically said she wants to share the earning burden with a spouse.[/quote]

Child support is nothing. (I make $120k...he makes $180k). I get $300 a month (two kids). Doubtful she will be paying much at all. Again, online calculators are really accurate. [/quote]

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