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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think there's a big piece that hasn't been mentioned, a lot of times in family food is love.  It's how people show love for the people around them.  They want to provide tasty foods for their loved ones to enjoy.

There's a lot of family traditions around food.  Even in memories when people start talking about things in their childhood.

I don't think you should be so hasty to discount what they do, maybe it's not your thing, but you shouldn't poo-poo it just because you don't approve.[/quote]

I think the problem is that OP doesn't enjoy the kitchen time, but still feels obligated to be there participating because all the women are there and none of the women aren't there. Certainly even the good robots of DCUM can understand how that might feel like pressure, and might lead OP to feel as if she's not actually getting a vacation. I think she does need to just decide it's ok not to participate with the other women and even if others look askance or pressure her. to hold her ground. But I definitely understand how that could be uncomfortable. In my husband's family, the women are all in the kitchen too - and I just excuse myself (I don' cook) but it doesn't always feel great to be the odd woman out.[/quote]

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