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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, have you considered that maybe your husband would respect you less if you stayed at home? I have a friend who stayed home for a few years after giving birth and it was obvious she was embarrassed about the fact, particularly considering that our circle is primarily comprised of working moms. She told me she went back to the workforce because she felt she had "nothing to talk about" with her UMC husband. You dull and unintelligent, OP, so maybe staying at home would actually be a good fit for you and won't be embarrassed. But your husband obviously disagrees and will probably get bored of you and will not be proud to have a wife who doesn't have a job. [/quote]

Wow. Did typing something so nasty made you feel good?

OP - I was a lawyer. I am married to a high earner. No inheritances expected. I have been staying home since my youngest was small. We felt like it was very difficult to manage 2 big jobs and 2 kids when we didn’t have any family support. DH totally deferred to me on the choice whether we would arrange more childcare or I would stay home. I think you need to sit down with your husband and really discuss the logistics of having 2 kids while both are working big jobs. It is different from having just one kid. And it will only get more complicated as they get older and have their own activities and interests. And I am much more interesting now. I actually have time to read and volunteer and go to interesting places. When I worked, I worked and went home exhausted. YMMV, but staying home has been very good for our family and DH still seems to like me a lot. Good luck. The most important thing is that you and husband are on the same page. I would approach discussions with him rationally and without a lot of emotion. [/quote]

Thankfully, I don't need this site to make me feel good. It's just nice to occasionally post unfiltered thoughts here. I personally don't know of any UMC man who is proud to have an unemployed wife. By claiming that you have time to read and volunteer, you refuted the ridiculous American notion that "staying at home is the hardest job in the world." Most women who don't work refrain from saying they have time for leisure but it's not the truth--as you demonstrated. [/quote]

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