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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks to all for your feedback.

You have made some good points but I feel that some of you STILL don't get what I was trying to explain, or are deliberately obtuse.

I moved overseas out of my own free will. I made that decision on my own and no one held a gun to my head. Absolutely.

I was a young and single 27-year old and, given that my parents were still young and healthy themselves when I left, I had no idea what the future would hold. I did not have a crystal ball.

Some of you may have missed the bit where I said that my husband is from a country that is not my own. He and I met in his country. 
Yes, IN THEORY I could have moved back home when my father got ill, but DH and I were already married by then, and we were paying a mortgage, in HIS country. My husband didn't - and still doesn't - want to leave his own country. He likes his country. If I had moved home to live with/near my Dad long-term (couple of years) my marriage would have disintegrated. Or at least we would have become estranged.

The country I live in is English speaking but, although we share the same language, it is a different culture. US, Canada, Ireland, UK, Australia, New Zealand, etc. - same language, different culture and mentality. And don't underestimate other countries' patriotism either ... so it's not that easy to uproot your SO if they are from that culture.

By the way, I am not the ONLY  person in my family who moved overseas. People have done it before me and after me, usually for love. 
The latest one moved over 5000 miles away ...

[/quote] FYI - some people on this site post actual caring answers and others try to deliberately mess with the poster and try to make 5em feel as bad as possible. Ignore the button pushers.  See a grief counselor and go from there.

I think you have enough answers. Responding to the button pushers just makes them post increasingly more pointed jabs at your vulnerable parts. [/quote]

+1  There's been a lot of useful posts on this thread in addition to the mean ones, but it's pretty clear that OP would benefit from talking her feelings through with a professional at this point.[/quote]

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