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[quote=Anonymous]My DH is like that, he cannot multitask. I used to get irritated by it but then I saw the pros about it.

The thing is, he is very committed and does a lot. So he is not the couch potato type. He just can’t clean the kitchen as he goes and easily prep breakfast as he guides the kids on what to put in their backpack. He is way more of a one task at a time person. I used to think it was laziness, and now I am convinced he is wired differently and that in general (there are exception and it is a spectrum) women multitask better.

But it also mean my DH is better than me at being fully immersed into one task. When he reads to the kids he doesn’t check his phone or try to talk to me. When he plays with them he gives them all his attention and is not trying to fit in a call with his mom. When he is repairing something he doesn’t try to hack it in 1 min to run to something else etc... this has value.

And I also see that for his own mental health it makes more sense. I am more frazzled and tired because I am juggling 100 things at same time. Yes I am more efficient and fast but it comes at a toll. With all the talks about mindfulness and being in the moment: he is the one who got it, not me. And it makes him more relaxed.

Bottom line: we are a 50-50 households but I have learned that we are not good at same things and that’s ok. So I value his ability to be present when he plays with kids and I think he values my tornado ability to bring order back to a kitchen / room..[/quote]

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