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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’d focus on the 2 main issues (her husband working from the beach house and demanding quiet and her not stepping up to make any meals even when there’s clearly a meal rotation/cooperative meal thing going on).

Forget the rest of it. So what if she’s on her phone a lot, doesn’t refill others’ wine glasses, doesn’t help your kids get ready for the beach?

If you bring up those little things she’ll just feel attacked and offended that you clearly don’t enjoy time w her like at all if you’re so nitpicky or critical of her. But the 2 big issues do need to be addressed and should be discussed well in advance so she has time to process and figure out what she wants to do. I’d bring it up w her now or very soon while the trip is still fresh in everyone’s mind so she can’t say hmm that’s not how I remember things going and she’ll be more likely to understand where you’re coming from if you present your concerns gently and just use those 2 specific examples and don’t go on a tirade.

Couch your concerns in positive comments too (it was so great to see you all! Baby is really adorable and fun. The kids had a blast. Etc then bring up your concerns and proposed solutions for next year. Then listen to what she has to say. Then end on a positive: hope the rest of your summer goes well, look forward to seeing you soon or whatever.)[/quote]

This. All the other stuff just makes you sound super controlling.

Let her know that if her husband wants to work from home he cannot expect it to be quiet.

As for meals , maybe she's not comfortable with cooking for everyone which is valid, but she'll have to be responsible for her family.

I think pp had a good idea about everyone splitting the cost forvPeapod delivery or ready made meals for the week 
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