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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

Of course this is DCUM so everyone wants to make this about money, but it’s not about money. It’s about respect and how I don’t have any left for DH.

I am also not under the delusion that I’ll easily find a new husband, although yes that would be what I want. I married ty he wrong person, and I may have/probably did lose out on the chance to have my most dearly held dream of a happy marriage to a man I admire and respect.

So now I have the unenviable choice of learning to accept being married to a man I don’t respect or get divorced at 37 with a toddler and face that fate.

It’s a tough spot. Really not sure which path to take. [/quote]

Every single last one of your posts has been about achievement and money. It's about money for you. Save your attempt to painting yourself as a victim because you don't like being called out for your toxicity.

PPs are right, you are immature and emotionally abusive, but these are the least of your problems. Your real issue is you suffer from a major personality flaw or disorder that is unlikely to be corrected and you will be miserable in any marriage you have.  What's even sadder is eventually you will  have the same nasty attitude towards your daughter when she fails to be the exact extension of yourself you think she should be,[/quote]

You’re being intentionally dense. Yes I respect achievement and the ability to make money is one manifestation of that. Valuing achievement does not mean you have a personality disorder nor does it mean you are emotionally abusive. I don’t think the dynamics of my relationship are healthy but that fact i[b]s absolutely a 2 way street.[/b]

And if you just know, it is my husband obsessed with my daughter’s future achievement, not me. I guess it is easier to fantasize about what she might do than actually do something himself.

I married someone thinking we shared values, and I made a mistake. I don’t think I am a victim. I think I made a mistake that has consequences. I need to make the best decision for the future now instead of just staying stuck like I on I have been. [/quote]

Nothing in your OP or replies suggests this.   Everything you shared here points to you being a  toxic individual. And yes you do think of yourself as a victim, you don't actually have to use those words for it to be so, Your entire language in this thread is meant to draw sympathy to your side. You also become disproportionately angry when you're called out on your BS.
Valuing achievement does not mean you have a personality, disorder, , but that's also not what I said. But a good example of the manipulative, language twisting and gaslighting behavior of a toxic personality disordered person not getting what she wants. Whic is to be told she's a victim, and her husband is holding her back from her greatness.[/quote]

If anything, this OP is holding her husband back from greatness with her contempt and disrespect.[/quote]

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