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[quote=Anonymous]I hear your pain, OP. My youngest is about to go to college, and I'm looking ahead and trying to figure out what's next.

DH wants to work in Europe. He may have a chance, but I feel broken and lost without my children. They live nearby, and I would miss them horribly if we went to Europe.

But my children have their own lives. They can zoom with us while we're in Europe. I think the brokenness comes from being a SAHM for more than two decades, not having my own life outside of my family and raising children.

I've known this was coming intellectually, but when it arrives (my 17 year old is very independent now, which makes me both happy that I've done a good job, and sad that she no longer needs me) it is devastating. What will I do with myself when I don't have a child at home to keep track of?

The answer, I'm sure, is that I have to keep growing, keep changing. I can't stay where I am emotionally and intellectually. I am planning on going to school for some training so I can get some sort of employment. Obviously it's too late for a new career, but a job would be nice. It would be helpful for me to feel useful, that my skills and knowledge are being used for something.

It's scary to move along an unknown path. But isn't that what we've been doing our entire lives? Who knew what it would be like to have children until we had them? Letting go of them is very, very, very hard. Keep growing, OP! [/quote]

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