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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, dysfunction can be hidden in families that are not divorced too, but with divorced families you know that there was some dysfunction for sure.  I don't think kids remain unscathed by divorce. It does do a number on them. My family member is marrying a guy who comes from a divorced family. He has had many years of therapy and is a nice person.  I still give the advice to wait a few years before they have kids because it is quite possible that he will bail when he becomes a dad.

When you become a parent, you actually do everything to make your child be in a secure environment and intact homes.  When people make the decision to divorce it is not done lightly. The dysfunction is usually extreme for people to break off.  A child that has had seen parents who are addicts, abusive or adulterers  - their brain chemistry becomes altered. It can be that they become like their dysfunctional parent or they become 
opposite of their dysfunctional parent.  But, why should my child deliberately take a risk with such a person when they can just avoid them?  We don't have to make all the mistakes ourselves, sometimes we can learn from other people's mistakes too.

I see messed up children all the time in the school classroom. Find a problem child and they are from broken families, find a kid who is excelling and they usually have two involved and loving parents. [/quote]

[b]My kids are excelling and their dad is gay and we are divorcing. Honor society and varsity sports teams.[/b] Oh well.[/quote]

Yikes. Your situation is even worse. Your whole relationship was a lie. As much as you don’t want to admit it, this is something that’s going to scar your kids down the road. I think it’s incredibly selfish for gay people to enter into heterosexual relationships. It’s so dishonest.

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