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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Team DH.  Your response comes off as childish and selfish. Your requests are a bit unreasonable - the whole week is about you? ANd your birthday wishes?

It was with good intention. ANd for people who are extroverted (like your ILs) THIS is a good idea and they assume you would like it too. SUre, you may know yourself and recoginize you're an introvert. That's fine, but not everyone around does. In fact, it's hard to recognize it in other people especially if you always put on a smile, go through the motions of being polite, appear gracious and friendly, and the like.

Surely, there will be chunks of time for just me-time, time with kids & DH, and the like so you can re-charge. No?

Can you get DH to ask your IL to babysit the kids one night while you and DH go out for the day together? Will ILs take you out for a nice dinner ? Can you make your birthday wishes known on your actual bday "I want to sleep late, leisurely shower, coffee and pastry in peace, read my book, spend a few hours with kids, and go out to XYZ restuarant for dinner"?
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No. Absolutely none of this. OP, tell your husband that he is welcome to go to WV with his family. You will be going to Florida. [/quote]

THIS.  And don't buy into this BS societal conditioning of "well, you just have to go along with it now, because it will hurt their little fee-fees (not that they considered for a moment how you might feel about spending a week with your in-laws without ever being asked)."  Women are conditioned to placate everyone else and be doormats.  You don't have to agree to be a doormat.  Just say no. [/quote]

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