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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As I've said before, there is no better place I've found on the internet to convince me to never get married again. I'll never have a GF [b]that gets away with denying me sex, no matter her perceived good reasons.[/b] [/quote]

You think you are entitled to sex. That is very rapey.[/quote]

I think I'm entitled to enjoy a fulfilling relationship with a woman that includes sex.  If sex isn't at least nearly important to her as it is to me, that will be a problem and she is free to find another man who is a better match.  There is nothing rapey about wanting, or even [b]expecting frequent sex [/b]in a relationship.  [b]There is force involved.[/b] [/quote]

Nice Fruedian typo.
Listen. You aren't entitled to any flipping thing to do with women. You aren't entitled to a relationship just for being alive. You aren't entitled to sex and you shouldn't expect sex.[/quote]

And FYI coersing someone into sex is assault. It doesn't have to involve force https://www.healthline.com/health/sexual-coercion[/quote]

When did I say anything about coercing a woman into sex?  This has gone from rape, to slavery, to coercion and all I mentioned was my desire to have a partner who enjoys sex as much as I do.  Specifically, a GF, not a wife. If that looks rapey to you, or like coercion, then something is wrong with you, not me.[/quote]

You didn't say you wanted to find a partner who enjoys sex. You used the words "entitled to: and "expect" in regards to sex. Those words are disturbing and imply that you have rights over another person's body. You didn't say "I'm very sex-postitve and put a lot of effort into pleasing my partner so I hope we will have a good sexual relationship."
[/quote]You're right, I didn't say that because I don't speak like that.  I didn't think I had to break it down for you but clearly, you have trouble understanding the simplest things.  I certainly expect to have sex in a relationship and any woman I'm with will expect the same or we wouldn't get together in the first place.  If words like, expect, in regards to sex are triggering for you, that's on you.  I don't do millennial-speak or whatever generation you're from.  My enjoyment of sex, where I expect my partner to enjoy it even more most of the time (because women have that super-power that men don't) is not: rape, slavery, coercion, or assault and for you to say otherwise exposes you as a nut case.  Throw in, gas-lighting , abuse and PTSD and you've covered most of the key words usually thrown around this forum.  I'm sure you can work those in if you try.

My point-and let me put this in terms I hope a child can understand-is this forum does a great job to convince single men like me to never get married again.  If my GF ever decides she no longer wants sex, I'm not going to face the same dilemmas so many men, and some women, express here: Do I divorce and tear apart my family and harm my kids just to peruse sex?  Do I cheat while keeping the marriage together?  Do I suck it up and just accept that my sex life is also over with?  I've been there.  Never again.  A relationship with me includes sex and I'll give more than I get to please a woman.  If she doesn't want it, the relationship will end on much easier terms than if we were married.  Is that so hard to understand?[/quote]

[quote=Anonymous]1.Nice how you never mention love. You just want a friend to bone I guess. And that's not a Millennial word, Bruce[/quote]
No, bone is pretty old school.  I didn't mention love, or 100 other things that make a good relationship.  I didn't because the discussion is about sex, and I stuck with the discussion topic.  I know common here to try to lead posters off into tangents, but try to stick to the subject please.  I know you can do it.  We can discuss my awesome love life in another thread if you like but you'd probably be bored.

[quote=Anonymous]2. Are you honest about your lack of commitment? Your transactional view of sex and relationships? Do you tell all these GFs up front that you will dump them if they won't put out?[/quote]

Not in such crude terms but yes, I am honest about what I want.  I'm honest that I'm NOT looking to get married and I'm very clear about how much I value a good, compatible, sex life as part of a good relationship.  Thanks for tossing in, transactional.  I forgot that key DCUM word.  The women I've been with enjoy sex as much as I do, if not more.  I don't see the transaction you speak of.  We are both happy.

[quote=Anonymous]3. I have to assume you are out as well with any medical issue that might interfere with your Very Important Penis. Like cancer eap tamoxifen means you are OUT, right? And again are you upfront about it with women?[/quote]

I know first hand about tamoxifen and other cancer drugs. I wish I never had to know that, but I do.  Again, you are just trying to run the conversation in a different direction.  Like your tired old question, would you want that for your daughter?  Try to keep the topic which is [b]not about losing interest in sex because of cancer treatments.[/b]  I suppose I could get my VIP caught in the blender also.  Did you think of that one?

[quote=Anonymous]4. What are the number of sex acts per week that is acceptable?[/quote]

It's not about keeping score and not every week is the same.  If a week goes by, or especially a weekend passes with no sex, we are probably both looking to fix that really quick.  I like sex about 3 times a week but that's not some hard number or a deal killer.  Anticipation is nice also.

[quote=Anonymous]5. Do you think all women can have multiple orgasms? [/quote]

Again, pretty far off the topic but I'll indulge you. I've had sex with enough women to know what a dumb question that is.  I've had sex with a few women who never had an orgasm and several where it was a real mystery to her when it happened, or didn't.  Or how.  I've had sex with women who said I was the first one to ever get her off with oral which is a mystery to me.  It's not some rare talent and I don't think I have some mad skills.  But clearly, a lot of men must really suck at it.  I just really enjoy it.  Maybe they lied.  Not every women who is capable of multiple orgasms even wants multiple orgasms.  Some are fine with just one.  Most women I've known who can orgasm most every time from PIV sex are at least capable of more than one at times.  I do believe she should get off first. I never want it to be me first.

[quote=Anonymous]6. Should a woman stay with you when you eventually get ED?[/quote]
It's up to her but probably not.  Unless my ED happened at a time when she lost interest in sex and/or was maybe relieved it happened.  Does that happen?  If ED struck me, I'd do what I can to fix it taking advantage of what medical technology has to offer.  But assuming it could not be fixed and sex is still important to her, we'd have to come to some agreement about our relationship.  I would not expect for her to agree to end her sex life because mine ended.[/quote]

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