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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's funny that everyone talks about the importance of SAHM during the baby years but, really, when you think about it, it makes sense that it would be more impactful on the elementary-teen years. That's when they're turning into real people who  make choices that will impact the rest of their lives.

Of course, there's the issue of what to do during the day while they are at school but if you are lucky and thoughtful about how you set up your career, you'll have an option to work part time or just during school hours.[/quote]

I think my issue with this is that while teens need a ton of support, I don’t find it that challenging to provide it while working. Maybe if I had some 60-80hr a week job it would fell hard. But teens basically have their own workday with school, activities, and homework. Supporting a teen is more like supporting a spouse — you dedicate time to them, eat meals with them, keep open lines of communication, listen and respect, etc. But I don’t need to quit my job to be available 24/7 because they don’t need me 24/7.

And if you are working PT or during school hours, you’re a working mom. Work is work. You just have a more flexible, less demanding job. But you aren’t a SAHM.

Babies/toddlers are totally different. They really do need 24/7 care. So of course most people who just SAHM for a few years do it then. It really is when they need you *most*.[/quote]

I take your point but I come from the kind of background that equates working part time as being “out of the game” and basically a SAHM. I consult and earn a decent amount for part time (80k) but I mostly consider myself a SAHM.[/quote]

Then you are in a tiny privileged minority. If you can make 80k a year working part-time while feeling mostly like a SAHM, congrats. You won the lottery. You should not post in this thread because your situation is so elite and special that it is irrelevant to most people's experience. You are making enough money on PT income to pay a FT nanny or housekeeper so that you could spend the time you are not working going to the gym or getting your hair done or something. But instead you choose to be an involved parent. Good for you but that is NOT the choice being discussed here.[/quote]

It almost certainly is.  Are you new here?  
I am not from DC, but I like this message board because there is an assumption of a fairly high household income, and I find it more relatable to talk about work/life balance and raising children here than with most of my blue collar friends and neighbors.  [/quote]

:roll:

Ah yes, your many blue collar "friends" and neighbors. I imagine it *is* hard to talk to them about "work/life balance" as a person who makes 80k working part time and considers herself a SAHM. In fact, I imagine it's hard for you to talk to people, period.

Would love a poll of how many DCUM posters relate to your your work/life set up versus mine.[/quote]

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