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The point is for many of us it doesn't cost anything additional to have kids living in our home.  You don't need a larger residence.  We have a 1000 square foot house and do just fine in it.  You want a larger house.  There is want vs. need.  If you as Mom choose to have a nicer lifestyle than you can afford, you shouldn't expect Dad to pay for it.  I choose to spend my money on my child so they have a nicer lifestyle than I do.  Its all about priorities.  You may need to live in a 3000 square foot house paid for by your ex but reality is 1000 is just fine.[/quote]

And for many of you, it does!

Want and need is meaningless.

Child support is pegged to income, not to some mythical "want vs. need".   It's not about how much a child need. It's about the fact that the state has decreed that your child is entitled to a certain percentage of your income, whatever that income is.  If a non-custodial parent makes a million dollars, the child will get a percentage of that.  If that parent makes 80K, the child will get a percentage of that.  These two children eat the same # of calories a day and can be fed for the same amount, yet their child support numbers will be vastly different.  Want and need does not come into it.  
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Beyond all that, a child has a right to support by both parents. I can’t see why a loving parent would want their child to have LESS at the other parent’s home.[/quote]

Same, but I understand why shitty stepmoms do. [/quote]

Oh, bugger off.

There are plenty of shitty Kim’s out there who don’t give dad a say and then expect the stepmom to just keep her mouth shut when $ that should be going into their household/future is being chucked down the drain by the ex’s poor decision making/life choices. [/quote]

Bugger off? Look, if you aren't a shitty stepmom who actively wants their stepchild to have less than they have in your home, then I wasn't talking to you and you have nothing to worry about. If you want to defend those stepmoms, well, that's an issue you should work on.[/quote]

And by the way, this is coming from a child of divorce whose mother spent child support terribly and I did have a worse standard of living at my mom's house because of it. Both my dad and stepmom were concerned about it, but my dad was concerned about our wellbeing, and my stepmom just talked about about other things she would rather be doing with the money my mom misspent, like home upgrades.

Cheers to all the stepmoms out there who genuinely care more about the wellbeing of their stepchildren than the money spent on them. [/quote]

+1, its very disappointing that there is no accountability in child support spending.   It really sucks when you do care about kids and they come with shoes with holes in them, clothing too small and don't have appropriate clothing.  And, the kids tell you this is the good stuff.  Or, when you send them back with all new clothing (and the old) and they tell you the new stuff disappeared as mom got funny about it.  Or, your gifts that are mailed don't go to the child even though they are delivered from the house.

(But, we never talked about it with the child.  New clothing would be on the bed waiting for him as if I took him there would be lots of drama via Mom).

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