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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again. I do really appreciate most of the posts on this, even the ones telling me I'm to have to change my expectations.

To correct a few of the total fabrications floating around, though:

I never said anything about lying to women about having a vasectomy. Actually, I said the opposite("I had a vasectomy, so no issue there ... and yes, I would be open about that").

I never said "no" to dating women in their 40s. Actually, I said the opposite ("I don't have a fixed age range in mind. Maybe 35-50?").

I never said I wouldn't "spend money." I only said "She doesn't have to be rich, but I'm also not interested in being a sugar daddy."

My description of appearance and income is 100% accurate. I don't have a problem getting dates. I have a problem finding the right person, and many posts have explained why.

I also didn't leave my ex to find a hot young woman. I always found my ex beautiful, and she probably never looked better than in the period right before we decided to divorce. The divorce was basically mutual because the marriage just did not work. A lot of effort, a lot of therapy, and it was broken and starting to hurt the kids. We both needed a fresh start.

What do I have to offer? I like to think I'm an interesting person, caring/kind, attentive in bed. Can I not start with that?[/quote]

Those things are fine for someone you have a nice time with. They won't really get you to someone to share a life with. It's the 'sharing a life with' part that you don't talk about in a way that communicates "I have figured out what I want and it's reasonable." The big sister line was really bad. If a guy said that, I'd think he has not fully thought through what the experience of being his girlfriend is going to be like. Why not just put off getting into something serious and find someone else who wants the same thing? And then it doesn't matter if she's divorced and has kids herself, so that opens up a lot more possibilities. A woman who is in a similar position and has partial custody of her kids isn't going to have or expect tons of time spent together, and you can work around each other's schedules instead of just having it be her working around you. [/quote]

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