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[quote=Anonymous]Hmm, I hate to be the voice of dissent but I think that it is normal for people in a couple to want to spend some time alone/by themselves/with friends.  I have a healtthy relationship with my husband and we do one or two date nights a week after the kids go to bed -- dinners, movies, walks, etc.  But in addition we try once a week (after putting the kids to bed) to also go out with friends either separately or as a couple.

I disagree with people who say "get used to it/you have a kid now/you are not entitled to time to yourself" etc..... I would go crazy having the same monotonous routine each weekend.  I absolutely LOVE time with my kids and ADORE them but once they are in bed there is no reason to stay home and be a home body at home, IMO, if you can afford to budget for regular babysitting. I realize this is a luxury that not everyone has -- but we don't have a car or any fancy electronics - and our "luxury" is a walk outside as a couple and time to decompress.

IMO it is unnatural for a couple to spend 100% of their time together. But, then again, that is just me and each couple is different..... I am a better wife/mother having space for myself and to continue to foster my own passions: running and yoga on the weekends, creative arts, etc.... and am truly ON and happy when I am with my kids....

So, I like your schedule idea....if it means you can have time to pursue your individual passions..... as long as you are using the schedule to foster your passions and not to control the other person or "get even" etc....[/quote]

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