Reply to How To Find A SAHM?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "How To Find A SAHM? "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tale as old as time, man seeks traditional woman, but demands modernity when it comes to a prenup.

You want tradition without any downsides. [/quote]

+1.

Op - the prenup needs to reward her for staying home with children.  Something like - 50% of any assets earned after the marriage date.

Even then, gosh this is so transactional.  Again, don’t see why you should get married! [/quote]

This is the math that is needed to make the pre-nup fair — 50% of the post-marital net asset increase of your share of the business. The problem is if your business is worth a million now, and it increases to 10 million by the time you divorce, you will owe her 5 million and you may not have 5 mill cash sitting around. Maybe you’ll have to refinance to pull cash out of the business or maybe her payout is structured with a large lump sum initially and tbe rest paid out over time.

If she is a SAHM, she is absolutely and equal partner to you in your business - you are pushing off tons of other house and family work on you and you get the benefit of her labor which you are investing in your business.

She needs her own attorney and she needs to be able to negotiate the prenup.  there are a lot of other concerns I would have.  How much will you participate in the family - weekly dinners, bed and bath time, weekend time?  How much will you put into a retirement account for her each year?   How much extra help will she have access to — nanny? housekeeper? cook? will she have free time to herself. will you pay for healthcare paot divorce but pre medicaid. will she work when the kids are in elementary. will she keep her salary? how will you split bills? will she get access to higher education?  what will the custody arrangement be if you divorce? will the marriage be monogamous or not?

If she doesn’t have her own lawyer and she can’t negotiate pre-nup details, then you aren’t really being fair. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics