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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One of the signs of a gifted child is the desire and ability to talk about mature topics with adults. OP don’t be envious because your child isn’t gifted, most people are not. What’s the saying....”It’s lonely at the top” and this applies to many of these kids who desire adult conversation. They are at least highly intelligent, so chances are their peers are unable to relate to them on many levels. We are so quick to judge and label kids, heck even adults, who don’t fit the mold. We shouldn’t stifle and discourage these types of precocious creative children, at least they have personalities unlike so many people these days. Kids like this have potential. Everyone wants to believe that their own child is intelligent, but it’s extremely frustrating when your child truly is gifted and a little quirky and constantly gets rejected by peers and adults alike. No, it’s really not a lack of social skills, it’s because the gifted chid doesn’t fit into the little box that you want them to fit into.[/quote]

It is a lack of social skills on the parents part not to tell their child to move to another area and let adults talk to each other without having kids interrupt the conversation. Why do you think your child should be allowed to monopolize adult conversations? The OP isn't envious of anyone kid, she doesn't want all her time that she has to talk to adults taken by a kid who won't leave the immediate area where adults are trying to talk about adult subjects. OP isn't talking about a kid who briefly goes over to the adults and spends five or even ten minutes talking.  She is talking about the entitled kid who stays by the adults the whole time the adults are gathered which can be two or three hours.

Our group had a parent who thought her child deserved to be in all the adult conversations with equal footing and thought it was so wonderful her child loved to express her opinion. She thought nothing of having her nine year old hang around the adults when we really wanted to discuss topics that included sex, drinking, financial issues, adult humor, complaints, etc. We stopped inviting this family to our group gatherings. We are back to having adult conversations.[/quote]

Certainly not.  It is proof of social skills in the parent that they realize that their child will need experience, just like any other skill, to develop social skills, and one's conversational and social abilities grow with use.

but there are many social outcast types on this board, who may not know this. [/quote]

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